BeYouTiful:Self Reflection

Hey! Back with another BeYouTiful post! as you can see on the titles what this post is about! It picked the best day to finally sit down andtalk about it. This post was suppose to be up like a week ago but alot have been going on! so lets get into it!

Have you ever did something in life, that maybe made you feel like you should not have done it? How did you handle it?  I beleive this is a common thing we do as people. I am very certain that as a woman I tend to always self reflect more at night. which is sometimes not a very good thing because, my brain goes in to ticking mode.. and I will be up all night trying to figure out why i did something. or why I did this instead of that.  Self reflection is a good thing that many of us should do, but do it in a self evaluation progress instead of a negative way, which comes hard sometimes.  Sometimes after a dispute between a love one, or a loss of someone, our first reaction is, “What did I do for this not to work? or Why did God take my Grandmother and not me”,  I  tend to do this all the time still and not so much to beat myself up, but every situation I have been through I end up learning and changing as a person.

I have recently been in a  situation where I was so upset where I was thinking I was a terrible friend, and companion because it was always an argument or dispute, when I spoke up about what I did not appreicate, and the negative outlook that I had on it was making me pick myself apart. You can not look at it that way, do not give yourself the entire fault of something failing. You take responsiblity for your part, but understand that You are not a horrible person, you have to know your self worth, Never allow someone to degrade or decrease your value because they are upset.

It took me a long time and im still working on that way i self reflect myself because, I have always been a person who cares for others feelings before mine.. and it drove me INSANE! When things went wrong I always blamed myself and would revaluate myself in a negative light, to where it would cause me to stress and not enjoy life. That was not fun at all,not was it healthy.  I had to snap myself out of these phases because I would think I was a bad person, or a bad friend, knowing that I always give 100% in everything I do. Self Reflections is great because it allows you to see the changes, and struggles that you overcame. Makes you appreicate everyday that you are no longer in a dark spot in life, that at the time felt like was going to cause your world to stop.

I hope that this piece of BeYouTiful inspired someone or gave you some uplifting motivation. Feel free to comment about how you self reflect or if you have any suggestions on better ways to self reflect in the comment secton of this post!

 

BeYouTiful inside and Out

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   I have been doing alot of thinking about some of the things I will be talking about here on my blog, and lately I have been doing a lot of “planner “related things, and for the longest time my first serious addiction was Panties & Make-up! I miss those addiction lol.. I will be starting a new set of posts as well as planner related but as you see on the title of the post “BeYoutiful” basically sharing stories and taking you guys on my journey of self confidence, beauty and fashion, as well as brands that I love to use or reviews on new products.It is very important for women to uplift each other no matter what race you are, or religon your maintain. I believe in supporting those who feel like there is not another person going, or been through a particular situation. I am not a very popular blogger, for I just recently got into blogging this way, as well as vlogging. I do beleive that popularity is not very important if you touch or influence one than your doing your job here on earth.

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Make-Up

One of the most amazing and fun tins a girl could get into. It is safe, and allows you to be creative. You can transform yourself into a whole new person if you wanted to. So many amazing MUA (Make Up Artists) on YouTube and  Instagram.  I always used the basic make up, Eyeliner  since the age of 13. I had a big self confidence issue when I was younger. I just felt so ugly so I thought myself how to apply eyeliner, and it was my way of feeling beautiful to myself. Then a few years ago back in 2011, while I was browsing youtube I came across an amazing and inspiring woman who goes by  Charisma Star and just watching her tutorials and her inspirational reason why she does them is always uplifting.

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 I started my Ipsy subscription  because, of Charisma had mentioned it in one of her videos. I’ve been an Ipsy glambag Subscriber for 3 years now! It is a Monthly $10 subscription , its super worth the $10, especially if your just starting out with using make-up or wanting to start up your collection. Use the Referral link and start your subscription today

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Fashion!

 The one thing that NO ONE can tell you is right or wrong! Your style is yours! It will constantly change throughout your journey of life. When I was in Elementary I loved the color PINK! now you will not see me in anything solid pink it has to have another color complementing it. I used to not like flip flops or shorts and now that I am getting more “girly” I am wearing them occasionally. I love seeing color combos, and what is new, I love shirts with hoods, because they just appeal to me. I love TIMBERLANDS or BROWN boots that favor them, its somethinf about them that truly just make me crave them!  Fashion can be a blessing and a curse as well, I say that because, what looks good on one person does not mean it will look fabulous on you or vice versa. I have to catch myself all the time in stores thinking a shirt is cute or a dress is cute but because I am built thicker and more curvy then others it does not always look appealing. All women go through it where you try to find that perfect piece of clothing and then we get bummed because it does not fit or it is not available in your size. That is okay! Self-Confidence is a KEY factor when it comes to shopping for clothes!

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