Hey! Back with another BeYouTiful post! as you can see on the titles what this post is about! It picked the best day to finally sit down andtalk about it. This post was suppose to be up like a week ago but alot have been going on! so lets get into it!
Have you ever did something in life, that maybe made you feel like you should not have done it? How did you handle it? I beleive this is a common thing we do as people. I am very certain that as a woman I tend to always self reflect more at night. which is sometimes not a very good thing because, my brain goes in to ticking mode.. and I will be up all night trying to figure out why i did something. or why I did this instead of that. Self reflection is a good thing that many of us should do, but do it in a self evaluation progress instead of a negative way, which comes hard sometimes. Sometimes after a dispute between a love one, or a loss of someone, our first reaction is, “What did I do for this not to work? or Why did God take my Grandmother and not me”, I tend to do this all the time still and not so much to beat myself up, but every situation I have been through I end up learning and changing as a person.
I have recently been in a situation where I was so upset where I was thinking I was a terrible friend, and companion because it was always an argument or dispute, when I spoke up about what I did not appreicate, and the negative outlook that I had on it was making me pick myself apart. You can not look at it that way, do not give yourself the entire fault of something failing. You take responsiblity for your part, but understand that You are not a horrible person, you have to know your self worth, Never allow someone to degrade or decrease your value because they are upset.
It took me a long time and im still working on that way i self reflect myself because, I have always been a person who cares for others feelings before mine.. and it drove me INSANE! When things went wrong I always blamed myself and would revaluate myself in a negative light, to where it would cause me to stress and not enjoy life. That was not fun at all,not was it healthy. I had to snap myself out of these phases because I would think I was a bad person, or a bad friend, knowing that I always give 100% in everything I do. Self Reflections is great because it allows you to see the changes, and struggles that you overcame. Makes you appreicate everyday that you are no longer in a dark spot in life, that at the time felt like was going to cause your world to stop.
I hope that this piece of BeYouTiful inspired someone or gave you some uplifting motivation. Feel free to comment about how you self reflect or if you have any suggestions on better ways to self reflect in the comment secton of this post!